it’s presented to us in so many guises.
Social media, books,on tv. Sex is also Presented as full of unimaginable passion and intense pleasure.
We meet it at every turn,no matter where we look or how we try to avoid it. It’s staring us in the face, like a beautiful lady in bright red lipstick.
“Everyone is doing it, I might as well”.
This article is not meant to judge or preach, merely to educate.
So what do you need to know before having sex?
You might be new to this or have already experienced it and you’re looking for a fresh Outlook on it.
You’re in the right place.
What does sex mean to you?
We’re all different, armed with different opinions so our thoughts on sex differs. To some, it’s a stress reliever, something to take the edge off all the frustration building up inside all day. While others, a sport, bed mantis engaged in to test endurance and reach new horizons, a great escape from reality.
Many also say It’s an intense experience between two people who share a bond, telemundo love as I call it” etc. Understanding what sex means to us allows us to express ourselves better as we only operate based on our understanding.
When you get understand that people have different opinions on sex, you learn to relate better with them and in turn have better sex.
Are you ready for sex?.
It’s an absurd question to ask as you already know what you want but are you really ready? Besides the fun and orgasms, are you ready for the sights, smells, sounds of sex. Forget what is being presented on tv, are you ready for someone else to be in your body or are you ready to be in someone’s body?.
Sure, there’s physical readiness but are you ready mentally?, I believe sex is a selfless act, you need to put the needs of your partner above all else( if you aren’t, what you’re having is not sex) you have to fully prepare for sex. I’m talking protection, open communication, contingency plans all that.
You’re probably thinking ” i already know about this nau” but I have to put it here. Before having sex,you have to totally over haul yourself, clean yourself out. Smelly underwear, overgrown pits etc, all of those have to go. Imagine being all eager to get down to business and you get a whiff of smelly underwear, or you’re in the game and your partner just breathes the dinner they had into your face. I know it goes without saying but still.:
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If you’re not in touch with your feelings, this one will be hard for you. Sex is not just a physical act, it actually starts with our brains, we all know that sometimes we don’t need to be touched before we’re turned on. You need to be able to communicate before you’re ready to have sex.
Why?. One needs communication while you’re having sex. If it’s sighs, moans, gestures or words. You need to let your partner know how you feel or how it is doing you.
Do you need extra attention paid to a particular part of you?. You need to let them know. Having sex with someone you don’t know how to communicate with is not ideal. If you do, I can promise premium disappointment. So learn to communicate.
I actually had a lot of fun with this. I hope you did too.
Infact, I would love to hear from you.
Tell me what you think in the comment section.